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Suggestions to improve our self-control

Self-control is essential for managing our emotions, allowing us to respond thoughtfully rather than letting feelings dictate our actions, which can lead to negative outcomes. The goal is to harness our emotions to work in our favor. Here are some strategies to enhance your self-control:

  1. Recognize the Impact of Anger: Anger can be harmful not just to others but also to our own well-being.
  2. Identify Triggers: Make a list of situations that frustrate you. Reflect on why they provoke such strong reactions and consider how to handle them more calmly.
  3. Acknowledge Your Feelings: Pay attention to how you feel before and after losing control. What emotions arise, and how do they affect you and those around you?
  4. Manage Negative Emotions: Learn to control destructive feelings like anger, jealousy, and envy.
  5. Practice Relaxation: Make an effort to stay calm and not let minor incidents upset you.
  6. Avoid Negative Projections: Don’t dwell on pessimistic thoughts about future events or people.
  7. Empower Yourself: Recognize that it’s not the situation itself that causes pain, but how you choose to respond to it.
  8. Find Humor in Challenges: Try to see the lighter side of tough situations and don’t hesitate to laugh at yourself. This perspective can help you relax.
  9. Be Patient and Listen: Practice active listening. Remember, we have two ears and one mouth for a reason.
  10. Take Breaks: When you feel tension building, step away and engage in a pleasant activity to recharge.
  11. Avoid Interrupting: Practice speaking slowly and allowing others to finish their thoughts.
  12. Shift Your Focus: If you feel on the verge of losing control, redirect your attention. Go for a walk or exercise, and clear your mind.

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Avra Lyraki (Ph.D. MCC, ICF)

Global Executive Communication Coach (MCC, ICF) | Government & C-Level Communication Mentor|ICF Assessor, ACTC & Mentor Coach| TEDx Speaker| HBR Advisory Council Member