12 Bad habits that prevent you from developing exceptional people skills
If you’re struggling with social interactions, it might be because you’ve never had the opportunity to truly learn how. Mastering the art of dealing with people is much like learning to walk—only it takes a lot more effort!
Now, imagine if you’d spent your whole life learning to walk backward. It would make everything harder, right? The same principle applies to communication: to succeed, you need to know how to interact with others the right way.
Here are 12 bad habits to avoid if you want to improve your people skills:
- Avoiding eye contact: It’s essential to maintain eye contact when talking to someone. While staring can be rude, avoiding eye contact entirely makes you appear disinterested or insecure. Aim to engage with the person by meeting their gaze.
- Slouching: Good posture matters. Stand tall and sit up straight. Not only does it make you look more confident, but it can also help you feel more self-assured.
- Frowning or not smiling enough: People are drawn to positivity. If you’re constantly frowning or not smiling, it can push people away. Even if you’re having a bad day, try to smile more—it makes a big difference.
- Avoiding strangers: While it’s smart to be cautious as a child, as an adult, you need to engage with new people. Being comfortable meeting and talking to strangers can greatly enhance your social skills.
- Making a poor first impression: First impressions are powerful. People often form lasting opinions about you based on your initial meeting. Make a conscious effort to present yourself well from the start.
- Speaking poorly: Effective communication is key. It’s not about talking a lot—it’s about talking well. Choose your words carefully, speak clearly, and avoid rambling.
- Not being a good listener: Tuning out when others speak is a common bad habit. If you care about the conversation or the person, be present and listen actively. It will strengthen your connection.
- Losing touch with acquaintances: To maintain good relationships, it’s important to stay in contact with people. You don’t need to check in constantly, but occasional outreach goes a long way.
- Being reactive instead of proactive: If something isn’t working in your social life, don’t wait for others to fix it. Take initiative. If you’re unhappy, be the one to make a positive change.
- Neglecting your social life: People enjoy being around those who have fun and know how to enjoy life. While hard work is admirable, balance is crucial. Make time for social activities and be known for your lively spirit.
- Letting fear hold you back: This applies to every area of life, but especially to social situations like meeting new people or taking on leadership roles. Don’t let fear stop you from pursuing important opportunities.
- Being closed-minded: The world is full of different people, cultures, and ideas. Stay open-minded, be respectful, and embrace diversity. This openness will enrich your relationships and understanding of others.
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Avra Lyraki (Ph.D. MCC, ICF)
Global Executive Communication Coach (MCC, ICF) | Government & C-Level Communication Mentor|ICF Assessor, ACTC & Mentor Coach| TEDx Speaker| HBR Advisory Council Member